The call of God upon women

First of all I want to say I know that God has a call on each of our lives.  Whether male or female.  While I have read about the call upon man I am going to relate to women for now.  I want you to understand that I am not perfect. I will never be perfect.  I don't even understand perfect.  God has formed me in the womb of my mother and He knew His plans for me before I was created.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11.

God did not set me up for failure. I have made bad choices.  I unfortunately have not learned to make bad choices sometimes I still do. I am human.  

However with that said: I have got a method to my decision making.  

1. Have I done this before?

2. What was the result?

3. What was the outcome?

4. What if negative results did I do to change the results?

5. What would God think?

I'm really trying to determine why I would put God at number 5?  

I have had a broken heart and soul so many times....

God doesn't turn me away and God does not turn from me.  Instead He tells me to  draw nearer to Him. 

Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. 8Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.9Be miserable and mourn and weep; let your laughter be turned into mourning and your joy to gloom.…James 4:8 

He is an amazing Father.. He really is.  

God says there is a Time for Everything : 

There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every [a]event under heaven—Eccl. 3:1-8 

2 A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
5 A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
6 A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
8 A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.

What is Jesus thought on women ? http://www.gty.org/resources/articles/A168/gods-high-call-for-women

The Greek, Roman, and Jewish cultures, which viewed women almost on the level of possessions, Jesus showed love and respect for women. Though Jewish rabbis did not teach women and the Jewish Talmud said it was better to burn the Torah than to teach it to a woman, Jesus never took the position that women, by their very nature, could not understand spiritual or theological truth. He not only included them in His audiences but also used illustrations and images that would be familiar to them (Matt. 13:33; 22:1–2; 24:41; Luke 15:8–10) and specifically applied His teaching to them (Matt. 10:34ff.). To the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4), He revealed that He was the Messiah and discussed with her topics such as eternal life and the nature of true worship. He also taught Mary and, when admonished by Martha, pointed out the priority of learning spiritual truth even over “womanly” responsibilities like serving guests in one’s home (Luke 10:38).

Jesus touched women to heal them and allowed women to touch Him (Luke 13:10ff.; Mark 5:25ff.).

After His resurrection, Jesus appeared first to Mary Magdalene and sent her to announce His resurrection to the disciples (John 20:1–18), despite the fact that women were not allowed to be witnesses in Jewish courts because they were considered liars.

Jesus treated women with dignity - He showed them respect and He showed them compassion. Salvation is the same for both men and women and that they are members of equal standing in the body of Christ- Gal.3:28. 

• involve mutual love and submission between two believers (Eph. 5:21),
• wives have the responsibility to submit to their husbands (Eph. 5:22; Col. 3:18; Titus 2:5; 1 Pet. 3:1). This voluntary submission of one equal to another is an expression of love for God and a desire to follow His design as revealed in His Word. It is never pictured as demeaning or in any way diminishing the wife’s equality. 
• wives and mothers are urged to be “workers at home” (Titus 2:5), meaning managers of the household. Their home and their children are to be their priority, ( women and mothers have a tremendous amount of burden and stress to stay at home and work) To be a helper in her marriage is being made beyond difficult.  
• women fulfilled a vital role in the Christian church (Acts 1:12–14; 9:36–42; 16:13–15; 17:1–4, 10–12; 18:1–2, 18, 24–28; Rom. 16; 1 Cor. 16:19; 2 Tim. 1:5; 4:19), but not one of leadership.
•  the Apostle Paul respected women and worked side by side with them for the furtherance of the gospel (Rom. 16; Phil. 4:3), he appointed no female elders or pastors. In his letters, he urged that men were to be the leaders in the church and that women were not to teach or exercise authority over men (1 Tim. 2:12).
• Men and women stand as equals before God, both bearing the image of God Himself.
• Titus 2:4-5 teaches women to be sober minded (i.e., to know their priorities). What are the priorities amarried woman should pursue? Her first must be to meet the needs of her family.
•  1 Timothy 2:15, which teaches that she will find great usefulness in childbearing. The Greek word for childbearing (teknogonia) means not only to give birth to children but also encompasses the idea of rearing them. 
•  Deuteronomy 6:6‑7, Proverbs 1:8 and 6:20tell us that children should be taught the principles of Scripture 
• involved in ministering to the needs of the poor and underprivileged.

I have not always been perfect in these roles.  I will say though that since my husband and I made the decision for me to stay at home this was and is our choice.  I believe it should be the choice of you and your spouse should you choose to do this. This is following God. 

Women are destroyed today by friends, family and those in the community to try and be a servant of all. They are asked to run a home, cook, clean, raise children and their social agendas, care for the husband and kids as well as serve in the church and schools. This is so much more than is asked if women just work outside the home and neglect their homes. 

It is no wonder that women are confused in their roles. I understand if women are divorced (really it makes no difference whose at fault here) that women are fulfilling the roles of both parents. As well as some men -keep in mind this is about " women only ".  

I know at least 6 out of 7 days per week and most of the time 7 days per week I feel like a slave in my own house.  I no longer have a duty to our church or outside agencies because I have more than a full time job at home.  I have a special needs child and I educate my children at home. 

We have had people attack our family because we have a special needs child and with one parent staying home to care full time for this child we don't have at our dispersal money all the time.  Its a choice we made for our family and our child. 

I have been ridiculed for not working outside the home and told that if we are in debt that I need to work outside the home.  While the ignorance speaks, it costs more to care for my child than money that I can even make.  My husband has been told when he casually hinted we had an insurmountable amount of medical debt for our daughter and that we were looking at doing a fundraiser.  He was told "Go to get welfare thats what it is for, thats what I tell my employees".  

I refuse to give in to those who condemn what God has convicted of us.  You can disagree I don't care. Im not here for a popularity contest -obviously but I will stand my ground.  I have not made my children orphans. 

While I continue to struggle with when my husband has no employment- I have tried to encourage him and hold him up. I have always prayed for him. I know God has a plan for us. 

I pray for women lost in identity and those who struggle with the right thing to do. I also pray for those that God has made Esther's. Those who are working temporarily to deliver the orphaned and afflicted. God will cover you and God will deliver you. 

It's not easy to live out God's design for womanhood. Popular culture mocks and opposes the biblical standard for women at every turn.  

Women were not designed to be held captive or in bondage. God has delivered us when we accepted Him.  Christ is our bridegroom.  Women were not created to be doormats or used. Women were not created to be servants to man.  They were created equal after man to be treated equal and helpers for man.  Women were created as well for the plans of God for creation.  

Women are to submit to their husbands. Husbands are to show their wife submission. It is colored and characterized by meekness, tenderness, and service. It is a humble, servant's love, like that of Christ. 

A husbands leadership that flows from love and is always tempered by tender, caring affection. The husband's proper role as a loving, nurturing head is best epitomized by Christ, who took the servant's role to wash His disciples' feet (John 13:3-17)